How would you answer "How do you do oral sex?" without going into graphic detail about how you actually do oral sex? We came up with the best analogy. Tune in to feel all warm and fuzzy.
How would you answer "How do you do oral sex?" without going into graphic detail about how you actually do oral sex? We came up with the best analogy. Tune in to feel all warm and fuzzy.
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[00:00:09] Michelle: So, I work with a lot of people who have never explored oral sex before. They haven't had penetrative sex or intercourse, but due to either belief systems growing up or messages around what you should and should not be doing during sex and how not to be slutty and how not to be, a pussy or whatever.
[00:00:39] I get a question sometimes, which I always try to think about, how do you explain this? And it occurred to me today how to explain to somebody how they may want to approach oral sex. And so this is what I came up with. Imagine you wanna buy a puppy and you get to go and I don't know, sit with a whole bunch of puppies and pick the one that you wanna take home.
[00:01:13] And so you're sitting there and there's this cute little puppy, wanting so badly to be loved and you want so badly to have it love you. And so, the way that you pick up the puppy and you pet them and you look all around and you look at their ears and you maybe even like scratch behind the ears or see where the puppy likes to be touched. It's when I think about oral sex, it's really about looking at the genitals as like how you would. Look at a puppy. I know this sounds really bizarre and there is nothing about bestiality that is connected to this conversation at all. And so if you are connecting it, this is not what this episode is about.
[00:02:09] Okay? You look at it as though it's, this thing that really wants to be loved, but also is like super vulnerable and like you don't really know it and you wanna become friends with it. And so you very gently want to slowly get acquainted. You're not just gonna grab this new little puppy and start playing rough with it because you don't know it's temperament yet.
[00:02:37] You gotta start slow. I mean, maybe if you know your partner and they just want you to like, stick their penis all the way in your mouth, or like they want you to just like roughly go down on their vulva. That's something that you would have to learn with experience and time with each other.
[00:02:58] But I always think it's good to just start really slow, like you would be moving from somebody's head down to their genital area. Like you wanna go around the genital area in a very similar way and work your way up to having the other person want you to keep, scratching them behind the ear.
[00:03:25] Stay there. They should show you that they're experiencing enjoyment. Now, if people struggle with being able to show somebody that they are enjoying how they're being touched, It means that you're gonna have to start touching yourself first. It means you're gonna have to start getting acquainted with your body, starting to experience pleasurable sensations that you can give yourself.
[00:03:56] That is what's gonna help you to be able to say to whoever's with you, "Hey, like, I like when I'm touched this way, or I like it to start slow and then go faster, or, yeah, stay right there. I know that if you know you stay right there, then that might start to build up the desire within me." It's almost like building a relationship with a new friend.
[00:04:27] And so you get to know them a little bit and that's how, the only way I know how to explain doing oral sex for the first time. I'm not saying that that's what my experience was like, but if I were to do it all over again, it would be this way. Anyways, that's all I have to say about that. Thanks for joining me.
[00:04:54] Bye. Talk to you later.