Ever wondered how to flirt or wished someone would teach your partner? Michelle dives into the question "How do you flirt?" in today's episode. Flirting is all about personal attraction, confidence, playful gestures, and engaging body language. Michelle reminds us to pay attention to the other person's cues to see if your flirtation is reciprocated. If you are unsure, ask! If you get a green light, go ahead, unleash your inner flirt and potentially make someone's day a little brighter!
Ever wondered how to flirt or wished someone would teach your partner? Michelle dives into the question "How do you flirt?" in today's episode. Flirting is all about personal attraction, confidence, playful gestures, and engaging body language. Michelle reminds us to pay attention to the other person's cues to see if your flirtation is reciprocated. If you are unsure, ask! If you get a green light, go ahead, unleash your inner flirt and potentially make someone's day a little brighter!
Show Notes:
[00:00:31] Michelle compares being asked how to flirt to being asked how to have sex, emphasizing that both are highly individual experiences.
[00:01:12] Flirting is described as an act driven by personal attraction and confidence, without knowing the other person's feelings.
[00:01:41] Eye contact is highlighted as an important aspect of flirting, along with playful touches and engaging body language.
[00:02:49] Michelle acknowledges that the other person may not respond due to disinterest or distractions, and it's essential to be okay with that.
[00:03:11] The importance of respecting boundaries and paying attention to the other person's body language is emphasized.
[00:03:38] Michelle encourages having personal feelings but recognizing that acting on them may not be appropriate in certain situations.
[00:03:51] She invites listeners to reflect on how they would explain flirting to someone who is unsure or believes their partner doesn't know how to flirt.
[00:04:00] Michelle signs off, wishing everyone a great day.
[00:04:07] End of the episode.
[00:00:00][THEME SONG]
Michelle: As a sex therapist I've been asked numerous times, “How do you flirt?” or “Can you teach my partner how to flirt?” And I honestly feel like being asked this question is very much like being asked the question, “How do you have sex?” Right?
[00:00:31] Because it's really, really, really, individual. When I think about flirting, and I guess when I think about sex too, number one is having an awareness that you're feeling attraction towards someone. Number two, is having the confidence to put yourself out there based on your own feelings, without really knowing what the other person's feelings are at that moment.
[00:01:12] When you flirt with somebody, you do it for yourself. Right? You do it to act on a certain feeling you're having in your body that may be captured by the other person. They may notice it.
[00:01:41] It's very much through eye contact, right? So that would be one thing. One thing might be eye contact, right? Maybe you hold the person's eyes for a little bit longer than you normally would.
[00:02:00] Maybe you touch their arm when you laugh, or you just sort of tap them to let them know that you're very much enjoying their company.
[00:02:14] Maybe it's even in the way you tilt your head or the tone of voice that you have when you're speaking to somebody, so you know. Playfulness and laughing and feeling light. I think that those create a really nice platform for flirting. You might be sending out these clues and they might not respond, right?
[00:02:49] They might either, A) Not be interested, or B) They just are so in their head that maybe they're not paying attention to what's actually happening in that moment, right?
[00:03:00] Maybe they're nervous, who knows? But the fact is, they might not be interested and I think it's about being okay with that, right?
[00:03:11] Like, being able to be in the moment with your own experience and have those feelings that are not contingent on how the other person feels about you, but also respecting their boundaries, right? If they're not enjoying how you're flirting with them, look at their body. Their body language, right? If they're really pulling back or closed off, lay off of that, right?
[00:03:38] You can have your feelings. It just doesn't mean that you act on them. I don't know. How would you explain flirting to somebody that maybe they weren't sure what it was or they didn't think that their partner knew how to flirt? Something to think about. I hope you all have a great day. Bye.